What a crazy week it has been! I am elated at all the responses from many around the world at the pure and innocent joy of my little girl reacting to music. This experience has caused me to really dig introspectively at the power and influence of social media.
Some background : My little girl was born 1 year ago. 2016 was a year not to be forgotten as I feel I went through a quarter-life crisis. Everything at that time was just hitting me, I was 28 and realizing what life was just doing to me and not about what I was doing to life. Getting married young, bring on the kids, stick close to my dreams and work hard to position myself in opportunities for those dreams and goals. I believe I just came to a point where I needed to 'slow down'. And living in an age where technology is so fast, instant "this" and instant "that" everything was just going too fast! I needed to slow down, make some decisions, own those decisions and accept what may come from them.
A couple of months before my little girl was born, my soul and mind were in the lowest valley I had ever experienced. Then, I totaled my truck, came out with some sore muscles, a month later we were victims of a scam that left us with $4,000 taken from us. It was such a vulnerable time, let alone a most embarrassing moment for me that it just added even more to my depression and meaning of life. There were many nights I turned to music, just working myself through chords and songs, poetry writing, lyrics, something that could help me see through the darkest of times where loneliness was ever present before my face. Through all this there was a spark of light that came into our lives and that was our 3rd child, my Supernova. The wonderful lessons I learned is the battle for continued optimism, hope and a positive mindset and no matter how dark that vision inside myself became, but the way to dig yourself out all began with sincere gratitude. That's where it all stems from, sincere gratitude for the very moment you have to be alive.. Also, I will add, there is nothing more healing than singing to your kids at night "Somewhere Over the Rainbow" when deep down you just don't want to exist anymore.
There is a horrible stereo-type in our culture and that is that Men need to be a certain way and Women need to be a certain way. I feel it's very simple, if women want to work and provide financially as well as nurturing needs their pay should be compensated justly. If a man wants to spend more time with their children, they should. It is okay for men to be as tender as a dove yet strong as a lion. Are we not all providers for ourselves, for someone else that we love? Are we not all living and breathing entities with a huge variety of skills and talents? There are a lot of things out there that promote "fun" But, let's get out there and just love for fun. Remember, this life is a huge Improv session, since most of us are making it up as we go we might as well make the best of it.